The Abundant Single Life!

Fear is a funny thing. If we give into it, it can make us avoid certain things. Conversely, it can make us jump into things that are not at all God’s best intention for us. Unfortunately, fear has held me back at various times in my life. It has driven me to jump into relationships before consulting God. It has also driven me to avoid guys all together during seasons of my life. Fear is just ugly. But I have discovered something wonderful. When I go sit at the feet of my first love, Jesus, the fear cannot stay. Jesus is the One that gives me courage to step into my destiny because He loves me perfectly. The problem is that I haven’t always been keenly aware that Jesus is the only one who can love me perfectly. Out of that place of looking for others to love me perfectly - pain has been born, wounds have festered, and from those wounds fear knocked at my door. I wish I could say I didn’t open the door. But I did. The story doesn’t end there, thankfully. One of my favorite devotiona...

“Surrender to God is the only way to go from a promise given to a promise fulfilled.”  ~Mercy Lokulutu If you had asked me when I thought I would get married over a decade ago, I would have said, “Soon!” That was my heart’s desires (it still is), and I had no reason to believe it wouldn’t come about on my timetable. But the years passed, I dated a few guys, learned a lot, grew a lot, recovered from having a broken heart more times than anyone should have to, and to this day am still waiting to be joined with the love of my life. Keeping hope alive in my heart has been difficult at times, especially during certain seasons. There were those seasons of recovering from a break up and wondering if my heart could go through getting to know another man. The pain of love lost was so strong and yet each time, God gave me grace to heal and opened my heart to love again. Then there were those seasons when I went years, not days, not months, but y-e-a-r-s without a s...

I recently asked God how He wanted me to position my heart about my future marriage. His answer was to be expectant but not to have expectations. I argued with Him because the truth is it is easier to have an attitude of “oh someday I will be married and my dreams will come true.” But having a heart of expectancy makes me feel like it is immanent…like there is a date in time that has been scheduled for my Divine union with my spouse and it could be just around the corner. The truth is, God does have that date set…I just don’t know what it is yet. It is the uncertainty of the details that makes me uncomfortable. This requires me to exercise my faith, hope, and trust muscles. The difference between expectancy and expectations Let’s take a look at the difference between having expectancy and having expectations. This is how I like to define it. Expectancy attracts what I believe God for through faith with a heart of surrender to the Lord to bring it about however He wants to....