Sex: To Wait or Not to Wait?


Sex. The Church has been silent about the topic for too long. Unfortunately, it is a taboo topic for many Christ followers. Yet sex is powerful. It is valuable. It is a gift and worth celebrating within the context in which God designed it to take place, that is, in a covenant relationship with another human being for life. Our culture is certainly talking about sex. In fact, our culture uses sexuality to drive people's decisions every day. So why is the Church remaining silent, I wonder? It is time to talk about it, my friends.

I believe that for every gift God has for us, Satan has a counterfeit. Sometimes it is difficult to discern the difference, especially when we are being barraged by lies. Thus, this is the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who will tell us the truth in love. It is so important to have those people in our lives who will love us right where we are at enough to not let us stay there. You know the kind of friends I'm talking about. It's those friends who when they see you going down a dangerous path say, "Can I share some truth with you, friend?" "You are better than that!" "Do you know how awesome you are!?!" Then they proceed to remind you of who you are in Christ and expose the lies that have been fired your way from the enemy and replace it with God's truth. If you do not have these kinds of friends in your life and you want that - be encouraged! Just ask God to provide you with some. I believe His heart for this kind of community and friendship is even stronger than your desire to have it. Ask and you shall receive!

All that to say, I believe what our culture is selling us about sex is the counterfeit to God's beautiful plan and purposes for sex. Having sex outside of a covenant relationship may feel good for a time, but in the end, there is still emptiness and a sense that something is missing. That's because there is something missing such as a commitment until "death do us part" or true love/agape love also known as selfless love. I recently read the following two articles and realized that if I were to write about the sacredness of sex, I would say what Mandy captures and articulates so well in these two blog posts. Rather than rewriting what she has done such a great job communicating, I am sharing her thought provoking insights and Divine wisdom on the topic. The following blog posts explain why I believe sex is worth waiting for until this beautiful gift happens within the context of marriage.

Keeping Sex Complicated

Keeping Sex Complicated: Part 2


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