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11 Secrets to Success for the Single Life

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When one of my dear friends, Claire, introduced me as an expert in waiting on God for a husband, I must say the introduction took me by surprise as I had never really thought of myself in that light. But after meeting with the young lady I was introduced to in this manner and sharing revelations, insights, and secrets for living the single life with contentment, I realized God has taught me a lot on this topic, especially in the last decade. While I do not claim to be an expert, I do want to be a faithful steward of all that God has revealed to me on this journey. So I have decided it is time to share the good news with other fellow singles. We need each other to stay encouraged. I hope that by me sharing the insights I have gained on my path toward contentment and living the abundant life no matter what life circumstances hold gives many other singles the freedom to enjoy life to the full more quickly.  John 10:10 is one of my favorite verses in scripture as God has used it man
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My New Book, Unveiled, is Now Available!

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I’m overjoyed to share with you that after six years of writing and refining the message God has placed on my heart about living an abundant single life, I’m releasing my first book for single women! My desire is to live authentically and openly on my path toward marriage, sharing both the struggles and victories God has brought me through as a single woman. This book is allowing me to do so on a broader scale. I pray that as I share this message, many are encouraged, refreshed, and equipped to embrace their season of singleness with vibrant hope. Unveiled  is for any single woman who longs to: Experience God’s good gifts in every season Gain grace for past mistakes and move forward in freedom Wait expectantly with vibrant hope Walk in her God-given identity Take hold of the truth and ditch bombarding lies Live daily with a renewed mind and godly perspective Embrace contentment and peace, no matter what circumstance she’s facing Unveiled  is not just a book or a s
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Resting in the Trough of Uncertainty

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Uncertainty. It’s normal to experience this in the journey of singleness. And in life really. If it is left unembraced though, we can end up striving, disoriented, weary, and troubled. We can even choose to swim against the current God has clearly marked for us making the journey much harder than it was designed to be. I’ve done this a time or two. Ok – maybe more than a time or two. When uncertainty has hovered around me, it’s my thoughts that have wandered and ultimately exposed the weakness of my trust muscles. There have been times that I have thought myself into a frenzy, rather than fix my gaze on Jesus and simply trust Him to lead my heart when the path before me seems unclear. Can you relate? I’m still learning to choose to fix my gaze on Jesus daily. I’m thankful for those moments God has chosen to expose my weakness, though. It’s given me an opportunity to invite God to transform me, to be my strength in weakness, and to expand me into the identity God gave me even when
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Is Grief a Gift?

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“The tears…streamed down, and I let them flow as freely as they would, making them a pillow for my heart. On them it rested.” ~ Augustine “Tears are healing. They help to open and cleanse the wound. Grief is a form of validation; it says the wound mattered.” ~ John Eldredge As much as my heart prefers to celebrate and sing a joyous song, I’ve come to a place of befriending grief and sadness. Sorrow cannot be satisfied without it. Giving us emotions was all a part of God’s grand design when He lovingly fashioned us. I haven’t always understood or embraced my emotions. Tears have often betrayed me by springing forth sometimes at the most inopportune times, in public places no less. But there’s beauty in that, isn’t there? Being raw and uninhibited is something that comes easily for a child. Then we grow up and try to hide things. Why? Sometimes life calls for raw emotions. Sometimes it happens in public places. And for that, I’m thankful because often times grief has been
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Expectancy Defined: Trust!

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Remember my friend, Christian , the love doctor? Well, he has posted another great podcast on a topic that's been on my heart a lot recently: the difference between expectations and expectancy. I wrote about this very thing a year ago, and it is back on my radar. Check out my blog post on expectations vs. expectancy if you haven't read it yet or want to read it again. I outline the difference between the two and how to navigate single life with expectancy instead of expectations. I love what Christian says in his podcast. Expectancy is just another word for trust. It's so true. Listen in and see what a difference this revelation of having a heart of expectancy has made in Christian's life. If you want to explore this topic even further, listen to Danny Silk's message  and be encouraged. Here's to releasing expectations and embracing a posture of expectancy! 
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Is it time to make a U-turn in your life?

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How many of you know that any time is a good time to take inventory of the condition of your heart with the Holy Spirit as your guide? Often times it’s a painful situation in our lives that catapults us into cleaning out the clutter in our hearts, though. Situations like this: A romantic relationship doesn’t work out Waiting for someone to return your love Sharing your love with another and they don’t respond favorably Waiting in the desert where it seems like the blessing of God’s rain (promises) are far away Fill in the blank with your particular difficult situation  It is through these painful situations that God nudges us, perhaps sometimes even thrusts us, into the refining fire.   Surrendering to the One who places us there is key to being purified and experiencing the abundant life God has for us. There have been many times in my life that situations like the above have made me realize my own shortcomings. God gives me a choice every time I face my own mistakes
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Are You in Love with Love?

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Have you ever been in love with love? It is driven by a deep desire to love and be loved but somehow gets twisted in the process of seeking after that love. Let me explain. Being in love with love is an obsession of being with someone, anyone, just so you are no longer single and feel a sense of being loved. Now that we are in the peak of the holiday season, I’m wondering how many singles are being bombarded with the desire to simply be in a relationship.   There is nothing wrong with this desire, but it is what we do with it that matters. Christmas time and celebrating the New Year can elicit joy and cheer, but if we’re not careful what we focus on, it can also move us into a place of sadness, self-pity, and discontentment. The question is how will we deal with the tension of having a desire that goes unmet? Will we throw away our trust in God and try to make something happen in our own strength? Or will we trust and obey the One who knows best and is working for our best int
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How Do I Forgive?

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“Forgiveness is a mighty spiritual issue. It defies human logic because it’s not about this earth. And when by God’s grace we choose, willfully, intentionally to forgive, the enemy is defeated one more time.” Sheila Walsh My last blog post  revealed the freedom forgiving others brings and how it is the key to forward movement and experiencing the abundant life God has for all of us! It is so important that I am mapping out how to forgive someone. Even though I grew up loving Jesus and receiving His grace from a very young age, I still didn’t fully understand how to forgive someone and extend the same grace I had received from God until I was in my mid-twenties. My breakthrough moment came after studying the Bible about forgiveness and having a friend walk me through forgiving others in prayer. While I can’t sit down with each of you and walk you through the same process, my prayer is that this blog post along with the Holy Spirit and the Bible, will be helpful guides for your own
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